Change Those Old Thoughts That Hold You Back

Have you ever realized just how much your old thought patterns from childhood, your youth or your early adult years are brought forward to "the now". If a person hears something that is said to him or her that is repeated over and over again, those words can eventually become a part of his or her belief system. Sometimes, a thought can become a part of your belief system even though it is said only once.

While creating thought patterns is great if the comments are positive and encouraging, it is obviously not good if the comments are negative.

Being told one is not good enough, not pretty enough, not handsome enough, or not smart enough can form our thoughts and our lives. I remember chatting with a childhood friend who told me that her father didn't like her. I asked her why she thought that and she said that he once told her that she ate like a cow. It only happened once but she never forgot it. She actually became self-conscious of how she ate because of it and there was nothing wrong with her eating habits!

Growing up, I was always told that my nose was big. My sister used to tease me about it all of the time. It affected me on such a deep level that it got to the point where I thought people were laughing at my nose when I was out in public. When I was 19 years old, I got a "nose job".

As you can see, it is very easy for one to make decisions based on nasty or negative comments. It can affect every aspect of your life - your work, your love life, your friendships, and your health.

Those comments can also breed unnecessary fears in a person. Being told you are not worthy can stop you from taking risks that would work out well for you. Another friend told me that her father always called her stupid (now he was an alcoholic and very abusive but as a child you don't understand that) and as an adult, she believed it. She was afraid to push herself to learn anything new. If anything was a bit hard, she gave up because she assumed that she was stupid and in reality she was quite bright. This way of thinking caused her to give up many opportunities. Old negative thought patterns can cause you to miss out on what life has to offer.

Today, make a list of all the things you want to do or want to have in life and then try to see if there are negative thoughts or fears preventing you from pursuing these goals. In particular, try to see if these thoughts or fears come from things that you heard from your parents, siblings, relatives or friends. How often do those negative comments sneak into your thoughts?

Try to recognize those negative tapes that play in your head and change them to positive ones. Believe in yourself and see the reality of who you are, not the reality of those who may be jealous of you, or who may have karma with you (which quite often leads to negative comments) or who put down others to make themselves feel better.

It is possible to change your thought patterns - recognizing them and what type of influence they have in your life is the first step.

Author: Wendy Kay
Wendy has been studying and researching the spiritual realm for over 20 years. In 1997 she founded her web site www.oralin.com which specializes in providing information for those who are just starting to explore the Spirit World or for those who want to expand their awareness. Her goal is to provide a community for those who want Higher Level Awareness so that they can reach their full potential.
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