FEAR

Yes, it might sound strange but…Fear is healthy! Our difficulties start when, unconsciously, we feed and nurture that seed. From being a small healthy protection, it grows like a weed to huge proportions of an amazing power. That is when fear becomes unhealthy, debilitating and even paralyzing. It inhibits us from having happy relationships, prevents us from success, from growing and evolving and from living our lives to the fullest.

This is the type of fear which we need to understand, recognize and deal with or it ends up controlling us and our lives.

It is most important that we become aware of our fears before we can start dealing with them. Most of us “carry them around” and are influenced by them without realizing it.

It is important that we ask ourselves: what am I afraid of? I'll bet that your first and immediate answer is either nothing, or not much…Well, stop and think again, take as much time as you need, relax, take slow deep breaths, try and keep your mind serene and allow it to slowly surface.

Think back to various past events where you thought things went wrong and check again which ones went so horribly wrong because you reacted purely out of fear. Clearly this work requires that you are completely honest with yourself so you can identify and allow fear to float into your consciousness.

Do not rush through this, you might have to try it more than once, remember that some fears are old and very well buried in your unconscious mind; you need to be brave and willing to “accept” their existence. Also, it all takes place within you alone, so unless you choose to share your experience with someone else, which you may, it will remain absolutely private.

If you got this far that means you already achieved the first step and you are now ready to deal with your fear.

(I would suggest you deal with one fear at the time and that you take your time, this is an important point, we can never rush through inner work and everyone has its own adequate pace, respect yours).

Our next step is to “make space” for our fear, by accepting it. Say to yourself: I am afraid of...... and so what? That is ok, I am ok with being afraid of ..... You might have to repeat this a few times until you really “feel” it. By doing that, we become two, distinct and separate, one is we and the other one is our fear. Great!

Next, let’s deal with what has by now become a very real and conscious emotion: Talk to your fear, remember you are not one anymore, at this stage there are already two of you. Now address it: I know you, I feel you, but I will not give away my power to you, I am in control here. I am going ahead and doing that which I must, in spite of you, you will not be able to stop me. You may come with me but I am the one in control at all times. Repeat it as often as you feel you need to.

Be firm, be persistent, determined and believe in yourself. Go ahead and do whatever your fear was preventing you from doing/achieving, you will be amazed with the results. Your fear, I promise, will melt away and loose its power over you.

Later you will realize that these fears, which partly “looked” like old weak spots, are now the ones which became your greatest strengths. Be aware that as you conquer one fear, another one will present itself but just like exercising a muscle, it gets easier and easier.

Author: Di Santos
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