Are You Trying Too Hard?

In the Online Meditation Group this past month we practiced an exercise called "Silhouettes". In the exercise, Members of the group had to "tune-in" and tell me what picture was posted on the wall in my living room. This was supposed to be a fun exercise but many found it to be frustrating and do you know what caused most of the stress? Trying too hard! As soon as someone started trying too hard, he or she set up an energy block which actually worked to keep the information from being received.

One of the students asked her Guide why she was having so much difficulty seeing the picture and she was told that she was trying too hard. In her meditation session, he showed her a feather floating down gently down towards her and when she tried too hard, the feather was blown away from her instead of being received. If she hadn't tried so hard, the feather would have floated to her gently and effortlessly.

This same principle should be applied to your daily life. You need to learn to go with the flow and let things happen. When you don't have to try so hard to make something happen, your life will become less stressful.

Have you ever tried to make something happen in your life and then found yourself becoming totally frustrated with the lack of progress? We've all done this at one time or another. Relationships are probably the first place you may try too hard. If it isn't working out the way you want, you may try to force the other person to like you or spend time with you which can actually push the other person further away. If your relationship is not meant to last, then you can make an emotionally painful situation last longer than necessary.

Trying to make your business a success is also an area where you can often try too hard. You may invest too much money, become a workaholic ignoring family and friends, and ultimately learn to hate the very thing that you wanted to become successful at in the first place.

I have often tried too hard in my own business. For example, I will have a number of readings waiting to be completed so I sit down to tune-in and get information and find I have to exert a lot of effort to receive images that are slow in coming and difficult to put together to make any sense. This would get me frustrated because I would start thinking of the people waiting for their readings and feel bad because they had to wait which would put all kinds of pressure on myself.

Then I began to learn to go with the flow. If the information didn't flow, I would stop the reading and wait until later in the day or until the next day and trust that the person would receive the reading when they were meant to get it. With that attitude, I find that the information flows without any effort on my part. When I wasn't trying so hard, things went smoothly. The same process happened when I tried to write an article. If I tried to force it, I would find myself sitting for a long period of time trying to get it to make sense but when I went with the flow, articles were written quickly and with inspiration.

Learning to go with the flow AND trust your intuition will make your journey easier and it is the key to less frustration and less stress in your life. Of course, there are times where it will be meant for you to try harder because you are learning the lesson of perseverance (or some other lesson) but your intuition will tell you that this is the time to actually try harder.

We often put out too much effort out of fear of change or letting go. If you are not sure if you should be putting in so much effort then stop trying. Get yourself to a state of calm and do not think about what the outcome "should be". If you are meant to continue trying, you will receive all kinds of feelings, urges or messages that tell you that now is not the time to stop. If things become more peaceful, you feel better, or you don't feel the urge to put out more effort then you know you were trying too hard.

Going with the flow and not trying so hard is a lesson that we can all benefit from learning and living!

About the Author:

Wendy Kay, has been studying and researching the spiritual realm for over 20 years. In 1997 she founded her web site www.oralin.com which specializes in providing information for those who are just starting to explore the Spirit World, those who want to develop their psychic abilities or for those who want to expand their awareness. Her goal is to provide a community for those of you who want Higher Level Awareness so that you can reach your full potential.