Changing The Bonds That Bind

When a bond is active, you may feel the energy of the other person through it and he or she would feel your energy. This does not mean that you would recognize that this is happening. If you don't realize that you are feeling the energies of someone else, you may misinterpret those emotions as your own and they will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. If the relationship is of a positive nature this is not an issue but if there is emotional suffering of any type, this may affect either person's life by creating negative moods. So, if the other person is angry and sending that energy down the bond, you won't be thinking, "oh, that person is angry"… instead you might yell at the kids or be short tempered for no apparent reason.

This is the type of bond we are going to briefly discuss - where you are attached to a person where there is emotional hurt attached to either of you.

Let's say you had a romantic relationship with someone and then things don't work out and you break up. Let's also assume the breakup is not mutual (so one person does not want to break up). That bond will be kept alive. The emotional pain will travel the bond to the other person and it will affect them. Now, the other person may not necessarily know where the energy is coming from or that it is coming from anywhere at all - they could attribute it to having a bad day and feeling the effects of it. This energy makes them feel lousy so now they send that energy back to you and that creates a vicious circle of unhappy energies. Now, don't go thinking that if you stay miserable and unhappy you will send that message to the other person and they will come running back to you. In fact, probably the opposite will happen - you will keep the energy "status quo" and comfortable. Let's face it, the other person is used to being unhappy in your energy especially if you were not the one to break it up.

So, what to do? The answer is easy…either severe or block the bond. When you do this, you stop the energy flow and that changes the dynamics of the relationship. The old saying, "if you love something, set it free…if it comes back to you it is yours but if it doesn't, it never was" holds true. Of course, there is a fear normally associated with doing this because there is a very real possibility that the other person will not come back to you and you will need to accept this and move on. On the flip side, not having access to your energy could make the other person realize how much they need you and bring them back into the picture. Either way, you win. When you truly severe or block the bond, you will be free of the unhappy energies flowing between the two of you. You may start to feel calm and at peace and you may be able to go forward in life with a more positive attitude. So, the next question is just how do you do this?

Try this... Go into a meditation (making sure to ask a Higher Power Filled with Light and Love to guide you) and ask to be shown if there are any bonds that are affecting your well-being that you could either cut off or block. You may ask to specifically see the bond associated with that person. If you see one, cut if off using energy scissors or whatever does the job or if you are not allowed to cut it, try blocking it off with bricks or wood. If it is truly blocked off, you will feel differently. The emotions associated with the bond will change. You may have to check the bond every so often to ensure the block or cut is still in place.

I did this recently. I was feeling very emotional and I was always thinking about a past relationship. Although the feelings seemed to be on both side, there was no commitment. A couple of weeks ago I kept seeing this bond, which looked like the end of a tunnel or big tube, and I understood it was our connection. I decided to block it up with bricks. Within minutes of doing this, I felt a tremendous sense of peace and calm. I felt free. The anger and emotions I had been feeling for such a long time disappeared. There must have been a lot of emotional garbage that kept that bond going. The good feelings continued and the periods of time where I felt unhappy have diminished considerably.

Learning to understand and deal with bonds is an excellent tool to have in your spiritual coping kit. Please remember, if you are not ready to cut or block the bond - it will NOT be allowed. That could be because there are still issues that need to be resolved. It could simply be a question of timing - if you can't affect the bond today, try again in a few months and maybe things will have changed enough that you can then do something about it. However, if it is allowed you may be able to create for yourself a wonderful sense of inner peace. Dealing with bonds in this manner can be used for any relationship - parent and child, brother and sister, friend or foe.

About the Author:

Wendy Kay, has been studying and researching the spiritual realm for over 20 years. In 1997 she founded her web site www.oralin.com which specializes in providing information for those who are just starting to explore the Spirit World, those who want to develop their psychic abilities or for those who want to expand their awareness. Her goal is to provide a community for those of you who want Higher Level Awareness so that you can reach your full potential.